by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 6, 2019
Inactivity makes anxiety worse. I have lived it, so this is not theory to me. There is almost nothing more painful than sitting still with your worry, your fear, and the physical tension your own body is generating with nowhere to send it. You sit there marinating in...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 4, 2019
I was talking this week with a brilliant man, and the deep question was not mine. It was his. That is usually how it goes with this guy. He sits across from me and gives the most beautiful account of his own inner life, explaining that he is simply obeying the orders...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 3, 2019
Most hunger is actually thirst. Most anger is actually fear. And most of the destructive things we do are just clumsy attempts to deal with fear and unmet needs we never properly named. Get under the surface of almost any blowup, and you will usually find something...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 1, 2019
What an awesome way to start a year. Going up. A friend of mine has GOANDDO stamped on his license plate. There is some history behind that phrase, drawn from a book we have both read, and it has stuck with me for years. It is a small thing to see on the back of a...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 31, 2018
When we let ourselves actually feel something, even the hard stuff, our first instinct is to run from it. We are a generation of expert escape artists. But after twenty years of helping people heal, and forty three years of self medicating with music myself, I can...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 31, 2018
Music — Feeling Is Healing When we let ourselves FEEL, even the hard stuff, sometimes we wanna run from it. But in my 20 years of helping people heal and 43 years of musical self-medicating, myself, I can tell you, feeling is healing and avoiding is bondage. I...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 30, 2018
There is a desire in all of us to worship and revere something, yet a thousand things compete every day for the attention that longing deserves. Deep reflection, in solitude and even in silence, can connect us to the very power that put us here. We were built to look...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 29, 2018
There is a desire in all of us to revere something, and a thousand things competing for that attention every day. But here is a truth I keep coming back to, one I have built a lot of my work on. Your worth is infinite, inherent, and unearned. You do not have to...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 28, 2018
Sometimes the people you need to divorce are your friends. The ones who keep getting you tangled up in the same messes over and over, who always seem to be standing nearby when your life goes sideways. I know that is a hard thing to say out loud about men you care...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 27, 2018
You would not know it now, but I spent my early years in the weight room. All State in high school, a college football player, a decade of training. And the lesson that stuck with me was never really about the iron. It was about how growth actually works, in a body...
