by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 20, 2019
I am always wondering why people do what they do. It is just my nature, and after enough years it becomes a kind of reflex. As a therapist and coach, I look at the messes people get into and there is almost always a hidden payoff buried somewhere in the drama. We...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 18, 2019
I am a firm believer in the power of the twelve steps. Yes, they come from programs like Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. But here is what most people miss. You do not have to be an addict to benefit from them. The wisdom inside them is human, not just...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 15, 2019
Over a twenty year career of helping people, I have come to believe two things are required to be genuinely happy. Gratitude and hustle. Are there other ingredients? Surely. But I have never once met a deeply happy person who was not doing both of these at the same...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 15, 2019
Emotional reactivity often traces back to earlier trauma. Physical abuse. Sexual abuse. Devastating losses. All kinds of terrible circumstances a person never asked for and did not deserve. And some people who struggle with emotional regulation quietly expect everyone...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 14, 2019
We are constantly telling ourselves stories about our lives. What happened, what is happening, and what could happen next. And every one of those stories is either positive or negative, hopeful or hateful. There is no neutral story. The one you keep on repeat is...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 10, 2019
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by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 8, 2019
Today a client cancelled, so I had a few unexpected minutes, and for once I lay down on my own therapy couch. People do not really do that anymore, lie still with their own thoughts and no screen to escape into. Today I did. I figured I would take a quick nap....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 8, 2019
I grew up in Florida, the Sunshine State. What people do not realize until they actually visit is how much it rains there. Now that I live in the desert, I have learned to appreciate clouds and rain even more, even though most of us treat a gray sky like it has...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 6, 2019
I am writing this from a quiet room, lying down, just listening to music. We are so busy, all of us. We pack our minds with noise and negativity from the moment we wake up until the moment we finally pass out. I have not watched the news in about two years. Instead, I...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 6, 2019
Time to produce. I cannot wait to get back with my tribe of brothers tonight to record a couple of podcast episodes. It has been three weeks, and I miss their dumb jokes and the way they keep me locked in on what I am actually supposed to be doing. Because here is a...
