by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 19, 2019
I work with couples, and so many of their problems trace back to one quiet thing. They have different definitions of normal. Not different values, not even different goals. Just two people who each absorbed a different picture of how a home and a marriage are supposed...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 16, 2019
I was having a brutal week. A brutal month. Honestly, a brutal year. Things had not gone the way I had hoped on so many levels, and this week in particular was rough. Two of my kids had the flu, I was not feeling great myself, and I was starting to lose control of my...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 12, 2019
Weapons were buried today. On a desert mountainside at the edge of town, in the dirt, on purpose. Let me tell you what that means, because it is one of the more powerful things I have witnessed in this work. I have been meeting with a divorced couple who are trying to...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Mar 21, 2019
Here is something I have learned over a lifetime of watching people closely. Happiness shows up during our seasons of growth. It is almost that predictable. Look back at the most satisfying stretches of your own life. I would bet you were busy. You were hustling...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Mar 5, 2019
People assume my job as a therapist is to hand out advice. I do, occasionally, but usually I do not. Instead, I try to help people find their own solutions, because the answer a man arrives at himself sticks far better than the one handed to him. And one of the first...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Mar 3, 2019
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by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 31, 2019
Wherever it is you want to go, you have to leave where you are. It sounds almost too obvious to say, and yet it is the exact thing most men refuse to actually do. We daydream about the beauty of the places we want to be, and then we stay right where we are, afraid to...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 30, 2019
The first words anyone spoke to me today were good morning and thank you. I was at the gas station grabbing my convenience store poisons, and I held the door for an older woman with the biggest smile, and four simple words from her made my whole day better before it...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 25, 2019
This is a tired man writing. It is Thursday night, which is my Friday, and I am sitting in the mall parking lot. I just grabbed some Greek food from the food court, and as I get ready to drive home, I realize I barely have the energy left to do it. Counting my two...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 20, 2019
Sometimes bad things just happen. Sometimes circumstances are completely out of your control, and the only sane move left is to let go and let God. You may never fully understand the meaning behind everything that happens to you, and chasing that understanding can...
