Stop Hiding Who You Are

Stop Hiding Who You Are

We don’t just hide our indulgent behaviors. That would be manageable enough. What we actually hide is deeper and more damaging: who we are, what we’ve experienced, what we feel, what we need. We keep the real stuff locked up and call it protection. We tell...
Count the Wins

Count the Wins

I’ll be straight with you. I drank six times over a three-year stretch. That’s not a success story in the traditional sense. I’m not standing on a stage with a chip and a perfectly clean record. And I’m not going to pretend otherwise, because...
Nobody Gets Sober Alone

Nobody Gets Sober Alone

Nobody gets sober by himself. I don’t care how strong you are, how determined you feel on day one, or how many times you’ve white-knuckled it solo before. Recovery is a contact sport, and the men who make it are the ones who let someone else into the fight...
Starting Over Again

Starting Over Again

Fourteen years sober. That is not a small number. That is years of meetings, of honesty, of grinding through the days when the craving felt like a physical thing sitting on your chest. And then a rough enough season arrived that I convinced myself the only way through...
People Can Change

People Can Change

People can change. I know that because I am one of them, and my starting point was not exactly promising. I grew up in a trailer in the swampy part of Florida. My family ran a commercial blue crab fishing operation, and seafood was on the table most nights not because...