by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Feb 21, 2024
I’ll be straight with you. I drank six times over a three-year stretch. That’s not a success story in the traditional sense. I’m not standing on a stage with a chip and a perfectly clean record. And I’m not going to pretend otherwise, because...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Feb 15, 2024
I run six men’s groups, each with six or more men. One evening, after a quick dinner at home, I spent two hours with five young guys in one of those groups. It was only the second meeting of this particular group, and these guys were twenty to twenty-four years...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 28, 2024
Here’s something I say plainly to anyone who will listen: victimhood doesn’t serve men the way it serves others. That’s not a dismissal of men’s suffering. Men suffer enormously. What I’m saying is that the framework of victimhood, the...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 27, 2024
I hear people say it all the time: apologies are meaningless, changed behavior is all that matters. And I understand where that comes from. Words without action are hollow. Saying sorry and doing the same thing again the next day is not an apology, it’s a ritual...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 25, 2024
Life feels like a fatal process sometimes. There’s no way around that. People, places, and things carve canyons into us in the violent rumbling of whatever is going on inside. Losses that feel permanent. Relationships that end. Seasons of pain so long and so...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 13, 2024
Let me give you the direct version because the people who need to hear this don’t need it softened. Women have specific patterns that damage relationships with men, and men have specific patterns that damage relationships with women. Neither side gets a pass....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 10, 2024
I had the sad but honorable experience of serving as a pallbearer for my grandmother. She died on New Year’s Day after ninety-four years of pure love and pure service and sacrifice. Carrying her was one of the most solemn and meaningful things I have ever done....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 4, 2024
Fight or flight is one of the most destructive states a man can operate from, and most of us live there far too often. That hair-trigger, reactive mode was designed for actual predators. It was not built for bad traffic, a difficult conversation with your spouse, or a...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 27, 2023
When something enormous lands in your lap, a major life decision, a crossroads, a crisis, the worst thing you can do is make a move from inside the chaos. Decisions made from panic, rage, grief, or desperation almost never serve you. They almost always cost you. I...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 17, 2023
There are people in my life right now who are carrying things I would not wish on anyone. And I am writing this for them. I think about the man being torn apart in family court over circumstances that have nothing to do with what kind of father he is. The woman who...
