by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 8, 2024
You don’t like what your man is doing, or not doing. You’re frustrated, maybe you’ve been frustrated for a while now, and it keeps coming out sideways. Criticism. Blame. Contempt. And you wonder why nothing changes. I’ll tell you why: what...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 7, 2024
You are talking to yourself constantly. Right now, actually. There’s a voice running in the background of everything you do, every decision you make, every mistake you notice. That voice has been there your entire life. And for most people, it is not kind. Most...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 6, 2024
Just because your energy crashes for a day or two or three doesn’t mean something is clinically wrong with you. Sometimes you just need to eat, sleep, and slow it down. Give it a minute before you diagnose yourself with something serious. We live in a time when...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 3, 2024
I am writing this to my future self as much as anyone else. Don’t let the music die. Don’t let the weight of the world convince you to go quiet. Keep showing up for the things that light you up. Say exactly how you feel. Stay in the arena of your own life....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Mar 18, 2024
Whether you know it or not, you have rituals. You do certain things at certain times in certain ways, and you do them consistently enough that they’ve become automatic. The question is not whether you have rituals. The question is whether you chose them with...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Mar 17, 2024
You don’t always get what you ask for, but you almost never get what you don’t. Read that again. Let it land. Because most of us are filtering our words, softening our needs, swallowing our real thoughts, all in the name of keeping the peace or not rocking...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Mar 12, 2024
One spring break morning, I was sitting with my eight-year-old at a McDonald’s playland. He was showing me something cool he’d figured out about Nike shoes. No matter how you toss one, no matter what angle it leaves your hand or how many times it tumbles...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Mar 5, 2024
I don’t love everything about social work. The bureaucracy, the paperwork, the politics of it, the way the system sometimes gets in the way of the people it’s supposed to serve. There are real frustrations in this profession that nobody talks about in the...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Feb 28, 2024
The world has never been kind to men. And it never will be. That’s not a complaint. That’s not a cry for sympathy. That’s just the truth, and the sooner you accept it, the sooner you can stop waiting for permission to get moving. Men are expected to...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Feb 23, 2024
We don’t just hide our indulgent behaviors. That would be manageable enough. What we actually hide is deeper and more damaging: who we are, what we’ve experienced, what we feel, what we need. We keep the real stuff locked up and call it protection. We tell...
