by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jun 18, 2026
A man sits across from me and lists it all out. She is cold. She is critical. She does not respect him, does not want him, does not see one ounce of what he carries. Every word of it might be true. And not one word of it is going to help him, because he is sitting...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jun 17, 2026
I have watched this same fight a thousand times from the chair in the corner. She lists what he did. He defends what he did. She corrects the list. He corrects her correction. An hour gone, and neither one of them has said one true thing about what is actually...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Oct 30, 2024
You talk to yourself all day. Might as well start liking the guy. This isn’t about hyping yourself up. It’s about looking the man in the mirror dead in the eye and deciding he’s worth respecting. Sounds simple. It’s one of the hardest ten...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | May 16, 2024
Fighting your day is exhausting, and most of the time you lose anyway. The bad driver who cuts you off, the meeting that runs long, the plan that falls apart before noon. You can rage against all of it, or you can decide to move with it instead of against it....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 27, 2024
Twelve years ago I checked myself into a hospital. I was on multiple substances, I was in continuous suicidal pain, and I had a method in my truck. That is not a story I tell lightly. I tell it because someone needs to hear it from a real person who lived through it....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 19, 2024
I spend my professional life trying to understand people. It is literally what I do. Someone sits across from me and I am working to see the world through their eyes, to trace the thread from where they are back to where it started. I am good at it, and I genuinely...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 17, 2024
I see it in my office almost every day. Two people sitting across from each other, and between them a wall that neither one fully understands. He’s either shut down or pushing too hard. She’s closed off, defensive, unreachable. And they’re both...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 14, 2024
If I know how to love anything or anyone at all, I learned it from watching two specific people do it for their entire lives. They’ve been doing it since 1964, which means they’ve been at this longer than most people have been alive. She was 17. They...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 12, 2024
I have failed at this. More times than I want to count. So when I say this, I’m not talking down from some high ground I’ve always occupied. I’m talking from the mess I’ve made when I missed it. Women often lead with the surface layer. What...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 9, 2024
I sat with someone recently who had tried to save a life and couldn’t. The guilt was overwhelming. The second-guessing was relentless. Every moment they’d spent trying to help was being run back through a filter of “what if I had done it...
