by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 14, 2023
A man operating in his fullness is not just out here surviving and providing. He evolves into something more. He becomes a teacher and a guide. His attention naturally gravitates toward the men and younger men around him, toward their professional struggles, their...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 14, 2023
Attitude is not just a thought in your head or a perspective you hold. It is something that radiates, something that other people in the room can feel before you ever say a word. You can walk into a space completely silent and an emotionally perceptive person will...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 13, 2023
This is not a popular take, and I genuinely do not care. The women who have the deepest, most devoted, most alive relationships with men share a common thread, and it has nothing to do with looking a certain way or playing games or withholding. It is simpler than...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 12, 2023
David Keirsey put it plainly: abandon the project, that endless and fruitless attempt to change the other into a carbon copy of yourself. That one sentence has rattled around in my head because I have lived both sides of it, as the person trying to do the changing and...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 11, 2023
Confront your shame head-on. It does not matter how it got there or who put it there. It is yours now. And the only way out runs straight through it, not around it. A lot of people have a hard time with that framing because it sounds like victim-blaming. It is not....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 10, 2023
Every resentment I carry is telling me something about myself. That took me a long time to accept, because it is a lot more comfortable to believe that resentment is about the other person, about what they did, about how wrong they were. And sometimes they were wrong....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 6, 2023
If you are trying to share your feelings and there is no actual emotion word in what you just said, you are not sharing your feelings. You are sharing your judgment, your blame, your expectations, or your defensiveness, and those things will not move a man. Not a...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 29, 2023
Here is something that took me a while to fully accept: giving is extraordinarily good for you. Not in some vague, karmic, good-vibes way. In a measurable, chemical, nervous-system way. Serving other people is one of the most self-interested things you can do, and...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 22, 2023
There are moments when a person feels like they are the only one who cannot get it right. Like something is fundamentally broken in them. Like the love and connection that seem to come naturally to other people will always be just out of reach. I have been there. I...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 20, 2023
I have spent years studying the Jungian masculine archetypes: the King, the Warrior, the Magician, and the Lover. I understand them deeply. But I kept wondering what the feminine counterparts actually look like, not in theory, but in a real person standing right in...
