by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Feb 9, 2021
I wanted girls too. I just did not get any. And now, having raised six boys, I am not sure I would have known what to do with a daughter anyway. Boys I understand. Boys I can work with. And these six have made me want to be better every single day. Fatherhood is the...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 9, 2020
I am going to tell you why therapy did not work the last time you tried it. It probably had very little to do with the therapist. It did not matter where they went to school, how long they had been licensed, whether they were an intern or a twenty-year veteran, what...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 8, 2020
I have so many defects of character that it is embarrassing. I know what most of them are. And someday soon I am going to sit down and list every single one of them on paper, talk them over with someone I trust, and look at them without flinching. That is not a...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 21, 2020
I am thankful for myself. I know how that sounds. But stay with me, because this is one of the most important things I have learned in forty-five years of living, and it took most of those years to figure out. Of course there are people I love and cherish and feel...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Aug 26, 2020
Some days the tank is completely empty. Not low. Not running on fumes. Flat empty. The kind of tired that sleep does not fix, because it is not physical. It lives somewhere deeper than muscles and rest. It is the weariness of a man who has been carrying things that...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jul 16, 2020
The smartest guy in the room is often the most dangerous one, especially when he’s wrong and doesn’t know it. Most men have a reflex built into them from the time they were boys: protect the position, defend the call, never back down. And for a while, that...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jul 15, 2020
One of the first things they teach you in clinical social work is deceptively simple: meet the client where they are. Not where you want them to be. Not where you think they should be. Where they actually are, right now, in the middle of whatever mess they are...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jul 1, 2020
I played football from age seven all the way through college and even a short run on a semi-pro team before my third major knee injury shut it down for good. And in all those years on the field, the most sacred twenty minutes of any game was halftime. Not because it...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | May 21, 2020
Here is a skill most men were never taught, and the lack of it is quietly wrecking more relationships than infidelity ever will: validation. Not agreement. Not fixing. Not explaining why she should feel differently. Just the simple, powerful act of letting someone...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | May 13, 2020
Picture this. He comes home after a long day, skipped lunch again, and he is running on fumes. She is already on her phone scrolling. He sits down across from her and pulls out his own phone. Nothing hostile, no argument, no tension. Just two people in the same room,...
