by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Apr 27, 2020
Let me say something that might rub some guys the wrong way: men need men, possibly even more than they need women. That is not a knock on women. It is a recognition that there is a specific, irreplaceable kind of sharpening that happens between men who are honest...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Mar 10, 2020
After almost twenty-two years of helping people heal and rebuild their lives, the most consistent thing I have seen is not addiction or trauma or failed marriages. Those are painful, but they are treatable. The deepest wound I keep encountering is this: people never...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 16, 2020
Emotional reactivity that follows trauma is real. Physical abuse, sexual abuse, devastating losses, catastrophic circumstances, all of that can leave deep marks on how a person responds to the world. I do not minimize that. I have sat with too many people carrying...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 7, 2020
Inactivity and anxiety are a terrible combination. Sitting still with worry and fear and the physical tension that anxiety generates is one of the most uncomfortable experiences a person can have. The thoughts race, the chest tightens, the stomach turns, and because...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 22, 2019
In college I took an astronomy class, and for fifteen weeks I had to track the exact time of sunrise and sunset every single day. This was before you could pull it up on a phone in two seconds. I literally stood outside all semester, pen and paper in hand, writing...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 9, 2019
Here is something most men do not want to hear. You have already gotten the feedback. The people in your life have been telling you the truth for months, maybe years. Your wife has said it a dozen different ways. A friend said it once, plainly, and you brushed it off....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 29, 2019
Sometimes you have to quit things. Just do not quit on you. I am not saying a man should never quit anything. I am saying he should never quit trying. There is a world of difference between the two, and confusing them has kept a lot of good men stuck in places that...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 27, 2019
The best times of your entire life have involved the women in it. Honor them. Your mom and her Thanksgiving cooking. Your wife’s laughter from the next room. Your daughter and her silly stories that go nowhere and mean everything. Your niece, your aunt, the...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 8, 2019
A few people have asked about the black necklace I wear. It is a reminder of a poem I first heard more than twenty four years ago, recited from memory by Danny Hamilton, the president of the mission I served for two years in Perth, Australia. I memorized it myself...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Oct 25, 2019
I am saying goodbye to my office this weekend. Excited, but a little reflective as I pack it up and move into a newly renovated suite just down the hall. I have been in this office exactly three years. At my weekly average, that is somewhere around seven thousand...
