Learning to Have Your Own Back

Learning to Have Your Own Back

I had a fascinating conversation this week with a woman who described how she finally learned to be assertive, especially at work. In the past, she was always hyper aware of everyone else’s feelings. Even when coworkers or subordinates put her in a tough spot,...
Do the Work — I’m Doing Mine

Do the Work — I’m Doing Mine

Today a client cancelled, so I had a few unexpected minutes, and for once I lay down on my own therapy couch. People do not really do that anymore, lie still with their own thoughts and no screen to escape into. Today I did. I figured I would take a quick nap....
Change Your Friends, Change Your Life

Change Your Friends, Change Your Life

Sometimes the people you need to divorce are your friends. The ones who keep getting you tangled up in the same messes over and over, who always seem to be standing nearby when your life goes sideways. I know that is a hard thing to say out loud about men you care...