by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jul 15, 2020
One of the first things they teach you in clinical social work is deceptively simple: meet the client where they are. Not where you want them to be. Not where you think they should be. Where they actually are, right now, in the middle of whatever mess they are...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 16, 2020
Emotional reactivity that follows trauma is real. Physical abuse, sexual abuse, devastating losses, catastrophic circumstances, all of that can leave deep marks on how a person responds to the world. I do not minimize that. I have sat with too many people carrying...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 7, 2020
Inactivity and anxiety are a terrible combination. Sitting still with worry and fear and the physical tension that anxiety generates is one of the most uncomfortable experiences a person can have. The thoughts race, the chest tightens, the stomach turns, and because...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 22, 2019
In college I took an astronomy class, and for fifteen weeks I had to track the exact time of sunrise and sunset every single day. This was before you could pull it up on a phone in two seconds. I literally stood outside all semester, pen and paper in hand, writing...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jun 9, 2019
I had a fascinating conversation this week with a woman who described how she finally learned to be assertive, especially at work. In the past, she was always hyper aware of everyone else’s feelings. Even when coworkers or subordinates put her in a tough spot,...
