by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Sep 28, 2023
If I had to identify a single thing that makes relationships actually work, it comes down to this: she has to be able to feel and express her emotions fully, and he has to be able to hold that without falling apart or shutting it down. That is it. That is the whole...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Sep 18, 2023
You cannot starve yourself to death to avoid the possibility of hunger. Yet that is exactly what a lot of men do with connection. They pull back, stay surface-level, never let anyone fully in, all because they are afraid of the day it might end. That is not wisdom....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Aug 12, 2023
People ask me all the time how I carry the weight of other people’s problems without getting crushed by it. The honest answer is that I don’t carry it alone, and I don’t carry it blind. I help people move through it, and then they get better. That is...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Aug 1, 2023
I hit 100 episodes of the Alpha Quorum podcast and I was proud. I had been on nearly every single one of them. I had poured time, money, and a lot of myself into that work. And then someone casually recommended an episode to me, episode 30, and I realized I had never...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jul 10, 2023
The man who is always trying to dominate everyone around him is usually running from something he cannot dominate inside himself. You see it everywhere. The guy who has to win every argument, control every situation, assert himself in every room. He looks powerful...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jun 13, 2023
It really is not that complicated. Men and women have been overanalyzing relationships for decades while missing the simplest truth in the room: when he is grounded and she is open, things work. When those two dynamics flip or collapse, everything falls apart. Not...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | May 21, 2023
I spent a long time being the person who showed up everywhere he did not really want to be. Said yes when I meant no. Smiled through situations that were quietly costing me something. Told myself that was strength or selflessness or just what you do. I am done with...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Mar 17, 2023
One of my clients told me a story recently that I have not been able to shake. He has a teenage son with autism. Severe case. His boy is a big kid, six feet tall, 200 pounds, and he has no ability to read social cues. What he does have is an enormous heart. And his...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 7, 2022
One Monday night, one of our teenage boys ran away. In those first hours you tell yourself he is probably with friends, just blowing off steam, that he will be back soon. But as the hours stretch into evening and then past midnight, the story you are telling yourself...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Aug 18, 2022
There is an old saying that goes roughly like this: ignore the warning, experience the consequence. I have lived that particular lesson more times than I care to count. And what I have learned from all of it is not that life is cruel or unfair. It is that the...
