by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 11, 2023
Confront your shame head-on. It does not matter how it got there or who put it there. It is yours now. And the only way out runs straight through it, not around it. A lot of people have a hard time with that framing because it sounds like victim-blaming. It is not....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 10, 2023
Every resentment I carry is telling me something about myself. That took me a long time to accept, because it is a lot more comfortable to believe that resentment is about the other person, about what they did, about how wrong they were. And sometimes they were wrong....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 6, 2023
If you are trying to share your feelings and there is no actual emotion word in what you just said, you are not sharing your feelings. You are sharing your judgment, your blame, your expectations, or your defensiveness, and those things will not move a man. Not a...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 29, 2023
Here is something that took me a while to fully accept: giving is extraordinarily good for you. Not in some vague, karmic, good-vibes way. In a measurable, chemical, nervous-system way. Serving other people is one of the most self-interested things you can do, and...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 22, 2023
There are moments when a person feels like they are the only one who cannot get it right. Like something is fundamentally broken in them. Like the love and connection that seem to come naturally to other people will always be just out of reach. I have been there. I...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Nov 20, 2023
A few spare minutes with the people I love and somebody pulls out a book. That is the kind of environment I have built and been raised in, and I would not trade it for anything. It changes the quality of every conversation in the room. What a Reading Family Actually...
