How We Each Fail

How We Each Fail

Let me give you the direct version because the people who need to hear this don’t need it softened. Women have specific patterns that damage relationships with men, and men have specific patterns that damage relationships with women. Neither side gets a pass....
Carrying My Grandmother

Carrying My Grandmother

I had the sad but honorable experience of serving as a pallbearer for my grandmother. She died on New Year’s Day after ninety-four years of pure love and pure service and sacrifice. Carrying her was one of the most solemn and meaningful things I have ever done....
Escape Fight or Flight

Escape Fight or Flight

Fight or flight is one of the most destructive states a man can operate from, and most of us live there far too often. That hair-trigger, reactive mode was designed for actual predators. It was not built for bad traffic, a difficult conversation with your spouse, or a...
Decide From Peace

Decide From Peace

When something enormous lands in your lap, a major life decision, a crossroads, a crisis, the worst thing you can do is make a move from inside the chaos. Decisions made from panic, rage, grief, or desperation almost never serve you. They almost always cost you. I...
Hold Your Character

Hold Your Character

There are people in my life right now who are carrying things I would not wish on anyone. And I am writing this for them. I think about the man being torn apart in family court over circumstances that have nothing to do with what kind of father he is. The woman who...