Giving Is Good for You

Giving Is Good for You

Here is something that took me a while to fully accept: giving is extraordinarily good for you. Not in some vague, karmic, good-vibes way. In a measurable, chemical, nervous-system way. Serving other people is one of the most self-interested things you can do, and...
Radical Self-Acceptance

Radical Self-Acceptance

There are moments when a person feels like they are the only one who cannot get it right. Like something is fundamentally broken in them. Like the love and connection that seem to come naturally to other people will always be just out of reach. I have been there. I...
Ask Great Men to Teach You

Ask Great Men to Teach You

Whenever I find myself around a man I genuinely respect, I ask him to teach me something. My dad, my brothers, my friends, even strangers who carry themselves in a way that tells me they know something I do not. I want to grow from them. I make no apology for that and...
Build a Reading Family

Build a Reading Family

A few spare minutes with the people I love and somebody pulls out a book. That is the kind of environment I have built and been raised in, and I would not trade it for anything. It changes the quality of every conversation in the room. What a Reading Family Actually...
Refill Before You Pour

Refill Before You Pour

I spend a lot of my life trying to pour into other people. That is the job. That is also the calling. But there comes a point where every man who gives consistently and heavily has to stop and do something for himself. Not out of selfishness. Out of survival. You...