Find Meaning in the Mess

Find Meaning in the Mess

Life feels like a fatal process sometimes. There’s no way around that. People, places, and things carve canyons into us in the violent rumbling of whatever is going on inside. Losses that feel permanent. Relationships that end. Seasons of pain so long and so...
Escape Fight or Flight

Escape Fight or Flight

Fight or flight is one of the most destructive states a man can operate from, and most of us live there far too often. That hair-trigger, reactive mode was designed for actual predators. It was not built for bad traffic, a difficult conversation with your spouse, or a...
Decide From Peace

Decide From Peace

When something enormous lands in your lap, a major life decision, a crossroads, a crisis, the worst thing you can do is make a move from inside the chaos. Decisions made from panic, rage, grief, or desperation almost never serve you. They almost always cost you. I...
Hold Your Character

Hold Your Character

There are people in my life right now who are carrying things I would not wish on anyone. And I am writing this for them. I think about the man being torn apart in family court over circumstances that have nothing to do with what kind of father he is. The woman who...
Own What You Broadcast

Own What You Broadcast

Attitude is not just a thought in your head or a perspective you hold. It is something that radiates, something that other people in the room can feel before you ever say a word. You can walk into a space completely silent and an emotionally perceptive person will...