Gratitude Over Attitude

Gratitude Over Attitude

You don’t like what your man is doing, or not doing. You’re frustrated, maybe you’ve been frustrated for a while now, and it keeps coming out sideways. Criticism. Blame. Contempt. And you wonder why nothing changes. I’ll tell you why: what...
Rituals Done With Intention

Rituals Done With Intention

Whether you know it or not, you have rituals. You do certain things at certain times in certain ways, and you do them consistently enough that they’ve become automatic. The question is not whether you have rituals. The question is whether you chose them with...
Always Land Right Side Up

Always Land Right Side Up

One spring break morning, I was sitting with my eight-year-old at a McDonald’s playland. He was showing me something cool he’d figured out about Nike shoes. No matter how you toss one, no matter what angle it leaves your hand or how many times it tumbles...
Why I Do This Work

Why I Do This Work

I don’t love everything about social work. The bureaucracy, the paperwork, the politics of it, the way the system sometimes gets in the way of the people it’s supposed to serve. There are real frustrations in this profession that nobody talks about in the...
Accept the World as It Is

Accept the World as It Is

The world has never been kind to men. And it never will be. That’s not a complaint. That’s not a cry for sympathy. That’s just the truth, and the sooner you accept it, the sooner you can stop waiting for permission to get moving. Men are expected to...