Just Hold On

Just Hold On

One of my clients told me a story recently that I have not been able to shake. He has a teenage son with autism. Severe case. His boy is a big kid, six feet tall, 200 pounds, and he has no ability to read social cues. What he does have is an enormous heart. And his...
When Your Tribe Shows Up

When Your Tribe Shows Up

One Monday night, one of our teenage boys ran away. In those first hours you tell yourself he is probably with friends, just blowing off steam, that he will be back soon. But as the hours stretch into evening and then past midnight, the story you are telling yourself...
Mess Around Find Out

Mess Around Find Out

There is an old saying that goes roughly like this: ignore the warning, experience the consequence. I have lived that particular lesson more times than I care to count. And what I have learned from all of it is not that life is cruel or unfair. It is that the...
Pay What You Owe First

Pay What You Owe First

The day comes for every man when he looks around at his life and feels like something is missing that should be there. He feels owed. He feels like the universe has not been fair. Maybe it has not been. But before you take that complaint to the bench, you need to know...
Forgive Before It Happens

Forgive Before It Happens

I have carried resentment and I have carried forgiveness. I know what both feel like in the body, in the mind, in the long, quiet hours of a night when you cannot sleep. There is no comparison. The weight of unforgiven offenses is suffocating in a way that compounds...