by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Jan 27, 2024
I hear people say it all the time: apologies are meaningless, changed behavior is all that matters. And I understand where that comes from. Words without action are hollow. Saying sorry and doing the same thing again the next day is not an apology, it’s a ritual...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 27, 2023
When something enormous lands in your lap, a major life decision, a crossroads, a crisis, the worst thing you can do is make a move from inside the chaos. Decisions made from panic, rage, grief, or desperation almost never serve you. They almost always cost you. I...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 12, 2023
David Keirsey put it plainly: abandon the project, that endless and fruitless attempt to change the other into a carbon copy of yourself. That one sentence has rattled around in my head because I have lived both sides of it, as the person trying to do the changing and...
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Dec 10, 2023
Every resentment I carry is telling me something about myself. That took me a long time to accept, because it is a lot more comfortable to believe that resentment is about the other person, about what they did, about how wrong they were. And sometimes they were wrong....
by Brad Singletary, LCSW | Oct 4, 2023
We are often more confident than we are correct. Read that again slowly. Most people will agree with it in the abstract and then immediately exempt themselves from it in practice. That is the trap, and it is one of the most common traps I see men fall into in my work....
