Worry about your own situation. Worry about the pain you are causing other people. Call your friends and family and tell them exactly how you have failed them. Sounds insane, right? Completely backwards from how we normally operate. But the truth is, we would almost always rather throw the blame somewhere outside ourselves. Maybe that is just the human default. And maybe maturity is the long work of evolving past it.
The Most Critical People Are the Most Unhappy
Here is a pattern I have watched for over twenty years, and it has never once failed me. The most critical people are the most unhappy, and the happiest people are the most complimentary. It is almost a law. So if you are finding yourself more and more critical of everyone around you, sharper, quicker to find the flaw, it usually means you have got things to tend to inside yourself. The criticism pointed outward is often just pain pointed in the wrong direction.
Look at the twelve step programs, Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. Some of the most powerful steps in the entire process require you to write down, and then say out loud to another human being, the exact nature of your wrongs. Yours. Not your spouse's. Not your boss's. Not your father's. There is a reason that single move sits at the heart of one of the most successful healing frameworks ever built. The healing is in the ownership.
Adapt. Change Yourself. Don't Run.
That is the secret hiding in plain sight. Adapt. Change yourself. Do not run, and do not complain your way out of it. Get yourself to change. If that is central to one of the most effective recovery programs in history, it just might have something in it for you and me too. It really is that simple, even when it is hard. Check yourself. Admit your part. Speak it out, often. Like ninety times in ninety days often.
So look in your own eyes and go hunting for the ways you are accidentally creating the very problems you keep complaining about. This is not for the faint of heart. You have to be strong to go looking into your own soul and stay honest about what you find there. But that is exactly what maturity is. Better insight, and the hard understanding that you are the primary influence in your own life. You are the commander here. So what kind of life are you going to make?